Couples Therapy
As an ICEEFT Certified EFT therapist (Emotionally Focused Therapy), I work with couples to understand and transform the negative patterns that emerge when their primary bond is feeling insecure. This model helps address the core issues at stake in our most important relationships: Do I matter deeply to my partner? Will he/she be there for me when I need them most? Do I feel safe and secure enough in this relationship to be my authentic self? If we are worried that the answer to any of those question is “no” it can cause us to feel scared and alone.
When distressed couples come to therapy it is often because they are stuck in patterns of relating and unable to free themselves of these patterns without help. As a result, partners end up feeling more and more hurt, angry, alone, and far apart from each other.
In a safe environment I can help you:
- Decrease conflicts and lower reactivity
- Understand and identify destructive patterns of relating
- Discover and name the painful feelings that fuel these patterns
- Develop understanding of and empathy for each other
- Increase intimacy and sexual connection
- Restore trust and become a team again
- Learn to interact in new ways
With the help of therapy you can regain the safety and connection that you have lost, reinforce the strengths in your relationship as well as develop new ways of being with each other and a deeper intimacy.
EFT is a highly researched, effective and evidence-based treatment that focuses on the emotional bond between partners, presuming that most relationship problems arise out of a disruption in this bond. You can learn more about EFT at the site of the International Center for Excellence in EFT.
